Slow dancing can be a lot simpler than fast dancing. If you don’t have very good rhythm or want to stick to very simple dance moves, a slow dance is probably your best bet.
If a guy approaches you, you can appear welcoming and show him you’re interested by making eye contact and smiling. [1] X Research source Don’t just stand around next to the dance floor doing nothing, as this can look a little awkward. If you don’t want to dance on your own, find something to do, such as grabbing a drink with a friend. [2] X Research source
Grab one or two friends and form your own dance circle, or sit by yourselves for a bit. [3] X Research source
Walk up to him and say, “Want to dance?” or “Care to join me on the dance floor?” Try asking nonverbally by approaching the guy, making eye contact, and smiling. Reach out your hand and, if he takes it, pull him closer. [4] X Research source Alternately, dance on your own near him and mimic his moves or playfully bump his shoulder with yours to get his attention. [5] X Research source
Don’t worry about not being a great dancer. Most likely, a guy won’t care too much if you don’t have the perfect moves down, as long as you’re trying and enjoying the moment. [6] X Research source
The leader generally initiates dance moves and determines where the couple moves on the dance floor. If you’re feeling less confident, you can try following, which simply means paying attention to where your partner is moving and trying to mirror that. [8] X Expert Source Lorena Bravo, MAProfessional Dance Instructor & Competitor Expert Interview. 19 May 2020.
When holding your partner’s hand, your grip should be firm but friendly — you shouldn’t be squeezing the guy’s hand too tight, but you should be grabbing on to it with enough pressure that they are able to lead you. [9] X Research source Alternately, a simpler way to stand is for the follower to put their arms around the leader’s neck, and the leader to put their hands on the follower’s waist.
If you’re standing very close to your partner, try putting one of your feet between theirs, and your other foot on the outside. [11] X Research source
Looking into your partner’s eyes is generally the least awkward option if it’s someone you don’t know. Just make sure to look away occasionally so you’re not staring or coming across as creepy. [13] X Research source Keep the conversation simple. You could talk about the song, or ask your partner about the event you’re attending. [14] X Research source
Don’t lock your knees, and sway slightly with your hips. Keep your feet planted on the ground at first, or take small steps if you’re feeling a little more confident. [16] X Research source The leader may choose to move in a circle while slowly stepping back and forth. If you’re the follower, it’s easiest to follow their lead and try to move your body in the same way that they do. [17] X Research source Try to stay relaxed while you dance. If you’re feeling panicked, try focusing on breathing steady for a minute. [18] X Research source
For a basic two-step, the leader can use their left foot to take a step to the left, bring their right foot in to meet it, and then repeat again for two steps to the left. The leader then can take 2 steps back to the right. The follower mirrors this by stepping to the right twice, and then to the left twice.
It’s traditionally up to the leader to initiate this move, but feel free to try it as a follower to add something special to the dance. [21] X Research source
Try saying, “you’re really good at this! Can you teach me some more moves?”
You can touch your partner with both hands, or leave one hand free and use that arm to try out different dance moves. [23] X Research source
Listen for the downbeats — these are often played by a drum or a lower-pitched instrument like a bass guitar.
It’s going to be a lot easier to dance if you’re both following the beat, but if one or both of you is having trouble keeping up, you can feel free to set your own pace. Follow along with the rhythm your partner is setting, or help him find the beat by putting your hands on his waist and gently guiding him back and forth in time with the song. [25] X Research source
Keep your arms relaxed. Bend your elbows so that your hands are at waist or chest level, and move your arms slightly up and down or to the side as you move the rest of your body. [27] X Research source To get familiar with how this move is supposed to look, watch a movie with a scene in a nightclub and pay attention to the basic movements that the background actors are doing. [28] X Research source
If you’re dancing in a very crowded place, keep your movements much smaller. Don’t take large steps, and keep your arms close to you and your guy. [30] X Research source Dance moves that make women look the most attractive include swaying their hips and moving their arms asymmetrically. Try raising one arm in the air, or playing with your hair with one hand. [31] X Research source
Strike up a conversation by asking him about himself. You could say, “How has your night been going?” or “I really like that song. How about you?” Let him know you’re interested by giving him a compliment. Try telling him that you really like his dance moves, or that you think he smells nice.
