Some guys take advantage of people’s natural attraction to indecisiveness. If he’s pulling away on purpose to try and get you to fall for him, he’s playing games with you. You deserve someone who treats you with more respect than that.
You don’t want to be kept waiting forever, so try to move on if he hasn’t reached out in a couple of weeks. If he comes back later, once his other responsibilities have settled down, you can then decide if you want to take him back.
If he did meet someone else, try not to take it personally. Dating is about meeting new people and seeing where it leads—give him the same freedom in the early stages of dating that you deserve yourself.
“I haven’t heard from you in a while. What’s been going on?” “I feel like we fell out of touch. Any reason you’re reaching out now?”
Self-care looks like a lot of different things to different people. Make sure you’re staying active, sleeping and eating well, and taking time to do things for yourself. You might also want to try meditation or mindfulness exercises, which can strengthen your emotional self-regulation.
Try writing down your feelings about this guy—what kind of relationship would you want with him, and does it seem possible? What compatibility and incompatibilities do you have?
“It’s good to hear from you. I’m seeing other people now, but wish you the best. Take care of yourself. ” “Thanks for reaching out. I enjoyed talking to you before, but since I hadn’t heard from you in a while, I’ve actually moved on. Hope you’re doing well. ”
“I totally get it—life happens. I’m glad that we’re back in touch. ” “Hope things have settled down for you. I’m really happy that we’re talking again—it had been great getting to know you. ”
“I’m really happy that we reconnected, but I have to be honest—I don’t really want to waste time. If you get distant again, I’m going to move on. ” “I like you a lot, and I want to give you another chance. I don’t really like having my feelings played with though, so if our communication breaks down again, I think it would be best for both of us if we move on. ”
